I am a firm believer that God sends us our children, not as empty vessels for us to fill up, but as complete people with all the gifts and abilities that He wants them to have, so they can do what He has for them to do! (whew, that was a long sentence!)
Today, Anna at Pleasant View Schoolhouse, has written the best post on this very thing. And she says it in a much clearer way! You can read her post here.