Showing posts from February, 2008

Thoughts on Raising "Teens"

Last night we had a Mom's Meeting for our co-op. We were having a meeting on pre-teens and teens, and wanted to discuss some issues, but also encourage moms of teens.

The first thing I shared was that the term "teenager" is not a biblical term. The bible uses the term "youth" and that refers most of the time to a young man who was not married. Somewhere in the last 100 years of history, Western culture has brought forth this idea of teenagers. Our Amish neighbors in the county have their children finish school at eighth grade and become apprentises in real work. The girls may work for a shop or work at home, the boys work on the farm or as a carpenter etc...They have value as young adults.

Many parents have taken on the responsibility of teaching their children at home. Some do not. But what every parent must do is to take on the responsibility to teach our children to follow God, as He has directed our family. Sometimes, people think we must allow "profess…

Why I Haven't Posted

I have been a member of a sewing message board for quite a while, though I have only recently begun to post. I usually just "lurk", amazed at the abilities of these seamstresses!
Jennie Chancey has wonderful period patterns. I, not being sure I was up to her original pattern, purchased the regency pattern that she did for Simplicity.

I made a dress for Lindsay and Emily from this pattern, though Emily ended up giving her dress to a friend. I showed these dresses before, from our Jane Austen Christmas Ball.

These were so wonderful to make and I loved seeing the girls in them. The only thing lacking was a Regency style dress for my younger daughters. Then, I remembered that Jennie Chancey has a girls pattern. I quickly purchased it, planning Easter dresses, bought material that the girls wanted for their dresses, and waited for the pattern to arrive. It arrived Tuesday, and I started sewing Wednesday. I finished them up this morning!
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How Do You Show Honor and Respect To Your Husband?

Kelly at The Barefoot Mama, has a great post about her husband and what she does to "care" for him. This got me to thinking.

One thing that I have learned is that my husband's main needs are for respect and honor. In order to show him that I respect him and honor him, I have learned to be a student of my husband.

What I mean by that is that over the years I have learned about him, what his favorite drink is, what kinds of foods he likes to eat, things that I can do to help lighten his "load". Knowing these things allow me to do things for him that SHOW him, my love and respect.

For instance, my husband likes to drink coffee with sweetened condenced milk in it. So I make sure that I always have sweetened condenced milk in the pantry. I also know that Tim doesn't like me to spend alot of money on it, so when I go to Sharp Shopper and they have it 2 cans for $1.00, I stock up! That way I know he can enjoy it more! Also, I make sure there is coffee made fo…

A New Blogger

Last year through email, I meet a "long lost" cousin, or second cousin or something like that! All I know is that it has been fun to get to know her. Her grandmother, my Aunt Nancy, introduced us and said we had a lot in common. She was right.

Nicole is a believer, a wife to her high school sweetheart and a mom to 3 active and adorable kids. She homeschools her kids too! Oh, and they have a cute little dog named Hershey Kiss!

Nicole started a blog recently, called Life in Jesus. You can find it on my sidebar. I look forward to knowing her better as the years go by!

Welcome to the blogging world Nicole!


As you probably know by now, I love tea. I love tea things! As I was tidying the kitchen this morning, I saw some of our tea things from last night.

My daughters and I love to have tea and host tea parties, big and small. However there is something very satisfying to put the kettle on during an afternoon or early evening, and call out "I'm making tea. Do you want some?" There is always someone who wants a cup along with me. Last evening, my husband was reading and drinking a cup of coffee with sweetened condensed milk, my oldest daughter was working on a project at the kitchen table, my son was at the computer working on his taxes. Two of the girls were playing cards at the table and the little ones were just around playing. I was reading as well, and decided it was time for a cuppa. When I asked who would want some (as this determines which size pot I use) 2 girls decided to join me. It is just a sweet thing to me, to pour them a cup and hear "thanks mom."

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Random Acts of Kindness

My dear sister in law, Miss Paula at Gathering of Friends has given me this award. She gave it to me for being prayer partners along with Becky at Hospitality Lane. I could easily pass this award right back to them! Paula and I have known each other for about 38 years I think! We grew up in the same church, that her father pastored. When we were older we along with my brother (whom she married) and her sister Beth, used to have a standing date night on Fridays to play games and eat! We minus Robert used to go to Jazzerize together! I have been in 3 waiting rooms with her while she gave birth to 3 of her children, she was with me when I had my oldest! We have both grown and matured, thanks to the Grace of God! I am so thankful for her and her friendship. As for Becky, we have known each other about 7 years? But she has become a true friend. One you can tell your heart's sorrows to, and know that she is going to help you take them to the only One who can carry them for you…

Interesting Seminar and Other Ramblings

Painting by Claude Monet

We had a wonderful seminar. It was interesting as it could easily have been a "relating to people" seminar. We did a FIRO-B profile a few weeks before the seminar. FIRO-B stands for Fundamental, Interpersonal, Relationship, Orientation and the B = Behavior. The goal is to get you to see how you interact, control and how open you are in your relationships. These things are God given, and while they do not give you an excuse to say " this is the way I am, get over it", they are how you will tend to respond during stress. They speak in generalitites, so some of the things don't apply to you, and that's ok.

Tim and I knew alot of this before, but it was an interesting seminar and it was facinating to see how to understand others, and yourself and how that can help you relate to each other.

Saturday night we went to the Revere Tavern for a banquet with many couples from our church. You can check it out at The t…

Happy Valentine's Day!

21 years ago today, Tim and I shared our first kiss, 6 months after we met. He is still the only one I want to share romance with!

We don't have any big plans for the day or evening that I am aware of. We are going to a marriage seminar at our church tomorrow evening and Saturday morning. Then in the evening we are going to the Valentine's banquet with our church's marriage ministry called "From This Day Forward." It is being held at the Revere Tavern. We are really looking forward to it.
This morning when I got up, I found on our dresser a card and a package from my sweetheart. The card was lovely, as were his own words written therein. I really am so blessed to be married to this man. In the package was this book:
I have been wanting to read this book! My sweetheart said "I hope you enjoy it!" I definately will.I wish you all a day of love. Whether it be in reading the Words of your souls lover, or caring for your children, making a fun meal for your fam…

It's Snowing, Icing, Raining - Yikes!

Well yesterday we had snow to ice, and didn't get to go bowling. Overnight it turned to rain.

As the girls and I were going to bed last night, we noticed that a car could not get up our hill. Several of the neighborhood men helped them out. I do not know how the road on the bigger highway was, but hopefully it was salted and clear as there are a huge hill and a hollow, depending on which direction they were headed. (Tim by the way didn't help the poor stranded people in the car. He has been going into work early and was already in bed.)

This morning, he was headed off early again. About 30 minutes after he left, he called to say that he had slipped the fan belt on his van and that he was attempting to get to work, but to start my van as I may need to head out to pick him up and get him to work. 15 minutes later he called to say that he made it to work and he was praying that the fan belt hadn't been lost. I was so glad not to have to head out in the dark on the icy, slushy …

Apples of Gold Banquet

We had such a lovely time last night. I had moved furniture around in the living room and put two tables in there. I used 2 red damask tablecloths, white linen napkins, crystal glasses for sparkling white grape juice, red glasses for ice water. I used clear glass cylinders for the centerpieces which had red roses and white carnations. These were not tall, so that everyone could see one another across the tables. I also had crystal votive holders on the tables.

I made place cards out of card stock, rose stickers and a red calligraphy pen! Our menu for the evening was:
Drinks and Appetizers
Hot Mulled Cider
Puffed Pastry Petites
Nancy's Quiches
Pepper Jam Pleaser

Preparing for a Special Evening

Last December, my Apples of Gold mentoring group was all set to have a banquet here at my home, when a bad weather caused us to postpone.

Well, tomorrow evening is finally the date. I am very excited. With it being this close to Valentine's Day, I am having fun with decorating and preparing the tables.

I will post pictures Monday morning!

Have a wonderful Lord's Day!

Dinner Out

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Last night we had an impromptu dinner out with dear friends. It is such joy to have the kinds of friends that share much in common, and you can pick right up where you left off the last time you were with them. For us as couples it is a rare treat indeed to have several hours of uninterrupted time, to talk and share our hearts. To speak of family, church, theology... We are blessed to have several dear friendships like this. Last night was spent in the company of one such couple. It was a delight!

Pray for Wisdom

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I am in need of wisdom. There are several areas that wisdom is needed for. One is in dealing with one of our children. The other is several issues with students at our homeschool co-op. I am the leader of the co-op and I am especially sensitive in dealing with difficult children. I understand what the parents are going through. However, we cannot let these issues go with out dealing with them in an appropriate way. We don't want to hurt or offend parents, but difficult children always find others to influence. It leads to other issues, and students who are frustrated in their classes because of the attitudes of others.... The committee is meeting today to discuss all of this. Please pray with me for unity, wisdom and clear, well thought out solutions that will honor the Lord. That is our whole goal for the group! Thanks friends!

Blog Award

My Niece (in law) has given me this award. Alicia said, "she a wonderful lady who follows the Lord and loves her family dearly. As I read her blog, I can see her tenderness and unconditional love that she displayes for her family. I think she deserves this award today!" I am honored. Her words were especially sweet. Alicia has a great blog "Renewed in Him", as do my sister in law at "Gathering of Friends", and Becky at "Hospitality Lane." However they all have recently received this award. So I am going to give this award to Melissa at "Elijah's Adventures", and Sarah at "ellie skees", and haus frau at "lulas hardt." These blogs all encourage me and challenge me in my faith, and in my work as a wife and mother. Thanks again Alicia and thanks to everyone who reads my blog. The blogosphere can be a scary place, I suppose, but I have also found it to be full of wonderful people!

Quiet Time

As I have been talking with mommy friends and reading blogs I have come across a similar theme lately.

Guilt brought on by a lack of "Quiet Time."

I can relate to that, after all with 6 kids it is never quiet here! I have in the past woken up early in the morning for quiet time, and then gone back to sleep for awhile. I have tried to do it when my kids went to bed. This works fine until you have teenagers, they never go to bed!!! Well they do, but usually at the same time my husband and I do. And evening time is when they want to come to you and talk, and I make it a point to be available to them.

I have come to the conclusion, that God knows all about the life stage I am in. One day, when I don't have little ones in the home, I can take hours everyday to study the word, pray without interruptions etc....

But during this season of life, I believe that God is so pleased with my mind being on Him and my talking with Him as I go about my day. I believe that the verses …

Kyle's Big Boy Bed

Our little guy has graduated to a big boy bed. He does really well, and is enjoying it. He had Thomas the Tank Engine sheets on his crib and I had made a little quilt for it with Thomas on it. So now we can use the Thomas pillowcase and little quilt, but not the sheets. Besides Thomas, Kyle really likes the movie "Cars", and Lightning McQueen, so my mom bought him some "Cars" sheets with Lightning and Mater on them. He was very excited!

I bought the string of car lights at Target - they have really cute stuff. You can see his train table (also from Target).This is a really neat bookcase my husband built for Kyle last year. I love it because it is in the Pottery Barn for Kids style, but much, much less expensive!Here you can see his new "Cars" sheets!Here is "tauboy Tyle". He is being greatly influenced by his sister's love for horses and a movie called "Horse Crazy", from Feature Films for Families. He likes the boy named "Ston…