Hospitality, Friendship, Encouragement

Tuesday, January 31, 2023

Comments and Commentors

I have the best reader friends here. We've built up good community together over the now almost 16 years that I've blogged. The tag line of my blog has always been Hospitality, Friendship, Encouragement.

That is really my heart with my in person friends and my online friends. Blogging, back in the day, was full of lovely women sharing their homes, their crafting skills, recipes, their gardens. We learned from each other and we had fun. 

We rarely got negative comments because if people came across a blog that didn't resonate with them, they just passed on by without leaving a comment. Or perhaps most of the blog was what they liked, but on occasion they didn't agree with a post so they just didn't comment. 

Those were the days, friends.

Personally, I've kept that practice.

The blogging/social media world has changed. In some ways it is more anonymous now, and some people feel free to comment without regard or remorse. They just blurt out things they likely wouldn't say to ones face and keep going.

It is always interesting to find that people cannot handle when someone has a different point of view/opinion than the one the hold. They somehow feel they must let you know!

Here is my latest anonymous comment - (trigger warning)

You are an idiot & your uneducated followers are Too! The PA board of homeschooling should be contacted- you are a Not a teacher! Did you Even go to college.."

Isn't that precious? This toxic commentor just felt that she had to say this to me on a post that is about information in the public realm. She does not like my Information Friday posts apparently.

I say she, because these comments are emotional. Let's look at her words. First of all notice she doesn't offer any evidence to show where my information was incorrect she goes right to calling you and I names. I'm an idiot and I guess you uneducated followers are idiots, too!

Then she goes for the home education teaching. LOL. I don't talk about this much but just incase she reads here and is truly concerned about it, I am a trained linguist. I spent four and a half years in study to learn how to create an alphabet for unwritten languages, and also in culture studies. I have a friend who actually uses this in a West African country. She teaches people to read and write in their own language!

However, Miss Toxic Commentor, there is no home education law in the country that requires a parent to have a college degree. You certainly show your ignorance in this comment.

I have successfully home educated 6 fully functioning now adult people. Some have gone on to higher education, some have chosen to do work such as animal handlers for a local theater, my son is a master drywaller, one owns her a business with her husband, and they have rental property. One is a busy mom, and one is finishing his last year and works part time with my husband in our business!

Here is a comment from last year - (trigger warning)

"You're such a stupid bitch! How can you even look at your fat, ugly face in the mirror after putting out all these lies? People are dying! Get your facts straight idiot. Who are you getting your information from, Tucker Carlson or NewsMax? God sees everything you're doing, so you might want to think twice before you put all this lying crap on your lousy blog"

These kinds of comments are par for the course these days, I guess. It's too bad. 

Dear Toxic, 

If you disagree with me you really don't ever need to seek out my blog, read my posts, and comment.



I have long time reader friends who are not political and never comment on these posts. They likely don't read them. It's okay - they don't have to read them to be friends. 

There was a woman who had been a longtime online friend. We'd even met and spent time in person. Politically we had differences, and after the 2020 election she didn't want to have anything to do with people who disagreed with her chosen narrative. She was vicious about it.

It broke my heart. I sometimes go to her social media to check in on her and her family. She has quite a following now on IG doing 'old fashioned granny' type videos. People love her content and her 'sweet encouragement.' 

I know the truth of what she is like in real life. But I do not comment. Why should I? People reveal themselves over time.

I was going to come on here and use my old sharp tongue to give this Miss Toxic a lashing and make her wish she'd never commented here, but I find I don't have it in me.

I pity her. She is so tied to lies, that she cannot see. She is blinded and likely will never be able to really accept the truth, because it so goes against her accepted narrative.

The truth of what has happened is flooding out. Those hiding behind the legacy media lies refuse to believe it. We all have a hard time accepting that we've been tricked, lied too, enslaved. I've had to work my way through a lot of that in the last three years. 

Those who are brave are willing to look reality in the face and see it for what it really is, rather than what we'd hoped it was, or what we were told was the truth. 

It's hard work, but it's better than wasting emotional energy going around to blogs and spewing ugliness. She is showing herself clearly for who she is as a person. That's really sad for HER.


Jan said...

So sad to see such anger and bitterness in toxic commenters. It's especially sad when they try to justify their hateful speech by using God's name. People have lost the concept of just moving on if they don't like what they read. I enjoy your blog!

Vee said...

First of all, I am sorry that such comments have ever come your way. All that these people wanted to say to refute you could be said in a calm way. In so doing, their opinions could have been pondered. This vitriol is so over the top that a reader immediately dismisses it. Yours was a loving, reasonable response to an obviously unhinged person.

Deanna said...

It seems that the political arena causes uncomfortable issues with many. Lots of pros and cons on both sides of the fence. What's in a person to have to pound others with insults in order to feel superior themselves? Having a college degree doesn't mean one has it all giving entitlement of being a better person, does it? Jesus did not have a college degree and He's the creator of the universe. Imagine that. Blessings to you.

Carol said...

It is terrible, the hatred, lying, vitriol, and it comes from both sides. I do read your Friday posts each week, but I must limit my “news” intake anymore and just keep my eyes fixed on the Lord and pray!

Debby said...

Exactly what happened to me and I shut down my blog. Probably the same bunch. I acted emotionally, due to the fact that they verbally attacked my niece who had just died. I was grieving. So I totally deleted the blog I had for years - and yeah I regret that. I always had this blog - and I do not post any political stuff, never did. I know of any other blogger who has stopped blogging due to the mean commenters -

In a way, I let them win. I hate that I did that, but at the time, it upset me so much. Oh well, it's just a blog.

There are mean people out there who do anonymously post vile comments. I admire your tenacity. Keep on, keeping on!

ellen b. said...

Yikes, such a personal attack is so junior high to me or maybe middle school. Just not the way a functioning adult should behave. Maybe she would have been helped by homeschooling. There are plenty of blogs for different opinions and she should just move along.

Anonymous said...

You obviously haven’t been to college either!! Chef kiss

Sue said...

Thanks for sharing this update, I find your posts factual, and enlightening, and always enjoy visiting with you. Like I stated in a previous comment some time back, you should run for political office, we need more citizens like you running our government!
I have always believed in more than one point of view and that I shall respect a different point of view from mine, as I ask the same from others, this used to be the way it was, not so anymore, which will come back to haunt us as a nation and is already in the beginning stages.
I want to encourage you to continue informing and standing for what you believe.


  I hope you all had a wonderful weekend. We spent Saturday, doing things around the house, and then we swam. Kyle and Sarah left after that...